When life puts you through hard times, you feel like time stops. And a piece of you can either die there - even though you’re still breathing, still walking, and still smiling - or you can be born again!
I lost my father when I was 16 and had some very challenging years after that. I got disconnected from my mother, barely spoke to friends, and was incapable of living life as it deserved. A part of me had died even though I carried on like society wanted me to carry on.
But was I alive, or did I just have the autopilot on?
It took years to regain balance: a lot of self reflection, some meditation, tons of effort and a pandemic that gave me time to indulge in myself and my creative pursuit. If a part died in 2015, another one was slowly re-born.
I am an independent, happy person today. I love what I do every day. I do not have long-term goals, but only the desire to be better each day and live life to the fullest.
I know that I reached this positive view of life early in my 20s because at some point in my life I came across the fact that – life can end, and – yes – you can lose someone you love, and – no – these aren’t things that happen only to other people.
It’s because I’ve seen darkness that I appreciate light so much!
I also think that it took me so long to get here because - for years - I haven’t been able to express my feelings, my grief, the fear I had I could lose anyone I loved.
We live in a society where we don’t talk about death or mortality. Why? Because it makes us feel sad? Why shouldn’t it make us appreciate life, reflect on how fortunate we are because we are alive, and we have the possibility of being happy, satisfied, and reaching our goals?
Here is where the idea for the Wish Wall comes from. Death doesn’t need to be a taboo; by thinking about the things you’d like to do before you die - and writing them down - and sharing them- we can start a conversation about mortality. And speaking about it with gratification, distraction, in a way that makes you pause, and thinking about your life (yes! speaking about death and mortality makes us think of life, and its joy).
And sharing with the community brings not only a sense of solidarity but you can also find what truly matters in life. This is how the conversation can become a huge motivator for all of us in this community.